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Finding Good Wingmen

Posted by Jeremy Soul in Dating Tips, Lifestyle Tips

Hey guys,

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about how to really make sure my clients keep practicing and keep improving their day game skills after taking one of my workshops.

Thinking back over the years, I asked myself, “What really helped me to get good?” Of course it was a ton of things and I couldn’t nail it down to just one thing. But if I had to ask myself what was the one thing that probably contributed the most, beyond my own motivation and finding the correct information, it would be:

Finding good wingmen.

There’s a bunch of examples from other areas of life where people have spoken about how you become like those around you. For example, it’s said that your income is typically the average of your five closest friends’ income. In business, it’s said to create a Mastermind group so you surround yourself with influential and powerful thinkers.

Finding good wingmen is the dating version of that. No matter how introverted you may be (and believe me, I really am), you can’t exist alone. Especially when you’re on an arduous journey (and often, getting good at dating can feel like just that), it really helps to know people on that journey with you.

First, they will give you motivation when you need. If you’ve arranged to meet your friend every Saturday to practice Day Game and you bail on him, you’ve let him as well as yourself down. If you both go out, hopefully you’ll give each other the push you need to start approaching women.

Second, it’s a lot more fun practicing with a friend. Just like when you’re at a bar or club, it’s nice to have your friends as a base to go back, it’s the same in Day Game. Makes it a lot more interesting to have company there in between approaches.

Third, success is much more enjoyable when it’s shared. When something cool happens to you, you meet an incredible woman or just have something go amazingly well for you, it’s nice to be able to share it with someone who understands. In the movie Into the Wild the main character says “Happiness only really exists when shared.”

Fourth, failures are much more easily tolerated when you have a friend to share them with. I remember texting one of my good wings and now close friend every time I messed something up: “Man, I just had the worst blowout!” We’d trade horror stories and in doing so, feel better about them.

So go forth and find good wingmen. One of the best things about taking a live training program with us is connecting with like minded men and then being able to go out with them after the workshop. There’s also the Find A Wingman section of the Attraction Forums where you can post to find wings.

Good luck!
Jeremy Soul