As much as I love day game, we have to admit it’s not socially ‘normal’ to approach a stranger and tell her that you found her strikingly beautiful, and that you want to find out some more about her.

Flattering? Yes.

Bold? Definitely.

Expected? No.

There’s a reason we do most of the talking for the initial phase of the interaction – apart from being a man and leading the conversation, we need to understand that (for the most part) women on the move are not in a social state of mind during the day, thus using humour is a fantastic way to break that social tension she may be feeling after the opener/ compliment – “This guy’s kinda cute and obviously confident… but what’s he going to say next?”

Humour is a strong attraction switch for a bunch of reasons – it communicates social intelligence and proves your ability to generate good emotions (and thus being someone of value). The ability to make a woman laugh within seconds also spikes a nice dose of preselection, since you are comfortable enough to take an unusual situation and make it fun and interesting. Here are some examples that may help in breaking the ice:

(After the opener) “Nice to meet you… now I hope you have a good personality” (credit Future)

“You’re running late? That’s cool I can write you a note explaining why you’re late to class”

“So what are you up to today? I mean, apart from picking up hot guys on the street, I figured that part out already”

“Don’t act so shy, I’m only what, Cute guy number 10 today? C’mon you do this all the time, you can be honest”(If she’s with her mother)

“Nice to meet you… and I didn’t think that I would be meeting your mother so soon, but it’s nice to meet you too!” or “You must be her sister” scores nice cool points with the mums

It’s not imperative that you make her laugh in the first few minutes, but it definitely helps!

If you’re like me, this is a frustrating sticking point to overcome. I remember first getting started in Day game, for the first two months a typical interaction would go a little something like:

Me: Excuse me, I just saw you from over there… you’re absolutely gorgeous! What’s your name?

Her: Samantha

Me: Nice to meet you, so what are you up to today?

Her: Just shopping, and meeting up with some friends later.

Me: Oh cool… Ok well, you’re gorgeous and I had to come and tell you that… I gotta run but have a nice day!

Self-blowout after self-blowout, I used to kick myself over the missed opportunities. But the good news is there is an easy way to overcome this, and that’s by preparing statements and answering your own questions after she does. Since the onus is on you to carry the conversation and do most of the talking, you may as well do it in a fun and interesting way while engaging the girl.

Statements paint a picture of you as being a cool and interesting guy with an attractive lifestyle. So let’s take the above interaction, but this time I played it smarter and prepared some stock statements to use…

Me: Excuse me, I just saw you from over there… you’re absolutely gorgeous! What’s your name?

Her: Samantha

Me: Nice to meet you Samantha. You have an interesting look – it’s different to most women I meet in this city.  I’m guessing you do something creative for a living or in your spare time?

(A cold read that implies I meet a lot of women and therefore have no shortage of options, as well as me noticing something specific/ unique about her – I have an eye for detail when it comes to women. From here she can mention a creative job, passion/ hobby)

Some other examples:

If she’s from NY/ London

“You know what’s interesting about Londoners/ New Yorkers? The first time I went over there, people told me that New Yorkers were really cold. But I realized that they’re just busy, so if someone stops you in the street, you’d better have something good to say! I’m from Sydney though so I’m used to everyone being friendly. Have you traveled/ been to New York?”

If she has an intellectual job (doctor/ lawyer, finance, etc.)

You must be intelligent, you were totally the bookworm in all your college classes right? I respect that though, I found marketing tough to learn when I first started but I think it’s important to go for what you want in life, that’s why I like meeting people who enjoy their jobs. Do you enjoy what you do?

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INNER GAME

You don’t need to eat nasty concoctions, throw up 4 times a day or do pushups until you pass out to feel proud of who you are as a man. Tony Robbins talks about inspiration and desperation as two of the most powerful underlying motivators for people. Remember what you had to overcome to get to this point in your life and use that as fuel for your fire. If you are on your purpose, having a blast along the way, everyone will be drawn to you.

Walking around campus after initiation, I remember thinking to myself: “I don’t care what anyone thinks about me”, “anything is possible”, “I am on fire right now” and “my life is amazing”. These beliefs are great to internalize. The music I was listening to was having a big impact on my state as well. Any type of music that brings you up to a higher frequency where you feel passionate, appreciative and empowered will help for day game. The key is to channel your emotions, be genuine and own your masculinity.

CAMPUS DAY GAME APPROACHES

Opening

• Jeremy Soul-style direct openers are very effective
  • (excuse me, I just saw you doing X, I had to come tell you Y, my name is _____)
  • approach thinking “I’m going to make this girl’s day”
  • get excited, take chances
• use situational openers for girls in your immediate proximity
  • ex: sitting next to her in class, standing on line at the dining hall, etc.
  • contextual questions / comments, banter & humor

Sample Topics of Conversation

• shared experiences
  • ex: dorm life conditions, dining hall food, finals, professors, etc.
  • hometowns, lingo, culture, study abroad
• involvement on campus
  • ex: student government, music, fraternity, athletics, yoga, volunteer groups, etc.
  • talk about why you are passionate about it so you can connect with her on that emotion
• social circle, epic stories, last weekend’s mayhem
• favorite classes, major

Day 2 Ideas

• study session at library or other public location
• pregame, party, daydrink, sporting event (tailgate)
  • invite her & her friends
• daytime date
  • ex: I once took a creative girl (day game approach) on a date where we drew on a sidewalk with rainbow driveway chalk, talked about our passions and then volunteered at a food bank.
• campus events
• find common interests and explore them together
  • plays, intramural sports, art history, outing club trips, frisby, etc.

My First Ever Campus Day Game Approach

I remember having a huge crush on this stunning freshman blonde girl who I’d see every day walking back to the dorms. She had the most unbelievable body I’d ever seen. I would melt every time I saw her. Flash forward to a couple months after pledging, I’m walking back from class, listening to my IPod, when I spot her walking just ahead of me. I felt some nervousness and I had no clue what day game even was at this point but all I knew was that I HAD to go talk to this girl. The angle was off, I looked like a drug dealer, another guy had just approached her 2 minutes before me, she didn’t even know what a fraternity was and she despised house parties. None of these factors mattered though. I just assumed it was on and kept talking. My beliefs “I don’t care what anyone thinks about me”, “anything is possible”, “I am on fire right now” and “my life is amazing” carried me through the Triad Model and brought me the girl of my dreams.

TIPS

1) Be ballsy, no regrets

• 4 years flies by fast– before you know it, graduation will be right around the corner

2) Don’t be discouraged if she has a boyfriend

• in no way do I support cheating, but literally almost every single hot girl I knew in college cheated on her boyfriend at least once

• if you really like her, put her on the backburner (long fuse) and go approach other girls (you never know when she’ll come around)

3) Use Facebook to your advantage

• pictures say 1000 words about you (tag yourself in the good ones)

• display social proof and preselection

• friend her on Facebook only after you’ve been texting each other for a little while

4) Tend to your social garden

• make some good friends and always be doing fun things (1st semester senior year, we purchased 1000 ball pit balls and made a McDonald’s style ball pit in our house!!)

Chance

As for me, I just recently moved out to Hollywood to intern for Love Systems. I’ve never lived in a city before so the initial anxiety of living in a new place with no social circle is something I’m working through. Its a great opportunity to cold approach, make new friends and recreate myself. Since our arrival, my buddy and I have decided to create daily, weekly and long term goals to accomplish what we want for our dating lives.

Week 1: Intro

- Taking adventures, getting situated, discovering the nightlife scene, talking to strangers and approaching a couple girls per day / night.

Week 2: Opening

Focusing strictly on opening, this past week has helped develop my peripheral radar for hot women. I can spot them from really far away now. I think I got blown out and took phone numbers from more women this week than any other week of my entire life.

Some tips that have helped:

1) Talking to everyone, all the time, regardless of how you feel.

2) Friendly Competition (w/ yourself & your wing if you have one)

- I despise losing!! Using competition to my advantage has given me the extra push to consistently approach and push my comfort zone. You can try direct competitions, indirect competitions, or just compete to see who can talk to more people in one outing. This will skyrocket the quantity of sets you approach in a week.

3) Cutting down on masturbation

- Credit Vercetti. I did not want to give up this habit! It was a great decision to go through with it though. Use that sexual energy to drive your approaches.

4) Letting go of expected outcomes

- As we left the supermarket the other day, my buddy told me he just saw Holly Madison from the Playboy Mansion show “The Girls Next Door”. My eyes lit up and my stomach dropped. I threw him my groceries, sprinted back and spotted her on line surrounded by 3 of her macho guy friends. “Thank you God”, I thought to myself, looking at this sexy blonde Playboy Playmate. A week ago, I wouldn’t have dared to approach this girl. But through the process of consciously pushing my comfort zone everyday a little more, I no longer have many of the fears I used to have. I walked up and took a shot with a direct approach. Everyone in the supermarket was staring at me. I could feel the social pressure building. I started transitioning onto my mastery topics real quick and then her macho boyfriend came out of nowhere. He made a Hulk Hogen grunting sound, pumped his chest out and jumped right in between of us. We had a little eye contact showdown for a moment with everyone in Trader Joe’s starting at us. I wasn’t ready to get my shit wrecked that day even if she was a Playboy Playmate. I hadn’t even qualified her yet!! : )

I know he’s old school but this quote by Mystery really sums up the mindset I have been cultivating during this past week. I think its great for someone beginning to get serious about improving their game.

Mystery: “..Think of tonight as a video game. It is not real. Every time you do an approach, you are playing this game. All your emotions are going to try to fuck you up. They are there to try to confuse you, so know right now that they cannot be trusted at all. You will feel shy sometimes, and self-conscious, and you must deal with it like you deal with a pebble in your shoe. It’s uncomfortable, but you ignore it. It’s not part of the equation.”

Good luck!

Chance

When I finally started to get pretty serious about improving my body language, I found an Alexander Technique teacher in my area and started taking weekly lessons. I took up a theater class for voice. However, approaching consistently, especially during the day, has had the biggest impact on my game thus far. I used to think that girls would laugh and I’d be shunned by society for direct approaching. Now, it’s become one of my favorite activities. It’s liberating to feel that jolt of attraction, channel that sexual / romantic energy and tell that beautiful girl specifically what I like about her. As long as its sincere and spontaneous, a positive reaction will follow.

By forming the approach habit, you will morph your scarcity mindset into an abundance mindset because there is always another girl to meet in a couple minutes. When you see that gorgeous girl, you go! Life is too short not to.

Chance

Here’s one I got a little while ago from a New York client. Note at the end how he says a friend of his got married to a wonderful woman through empowering himself with the techniques that Love Systems teaches.

I try to maintain as many personal friendships as I can with clients. This year, I’ll go to my second wedding from an ex-client, and I certainly know of a few other guys who have stayed in touch with me about finally getting married to someone special.

I bet though, that there are dozens others whom I have taught who have gotten married. So really, if that’s you, please let me know. Because I love hearing it.

Jeremy-

Just got this e-mail and was reminded of what a great time I had doing your day game workshop back in August.  What your former client says in this e-mail about his grandmother being able to approve of your methods is spot-on.

There are three specific things that are great about your workshop.  First, it creates a space where a good guy can feel that he has permission to experiment and to practice skills that don’t get better if you don’t try.  The biggest hurdle to learning these things is getting out there and starting so that you know what works and what doesn’t, and so that you can develop your own style and strengths.  Just by creating an environment where any guy, no matter how clueless, can feel comfortable opening up to these situations, you set people up for success.

The other thing your workshop does– and this might be specific to New Yorkers– is helps guys get over the oddness of giving sincere compliments early on in a conversation and in knowing someone.  I was strongly reminded of an article from Esquire a few years ago (http://www.esquire.com/features/how-to-compliment-1009) about how giving compliments is a lost art form.  It isn’t what I was expecting to get out of the program, but since August, I’ve been better at knowing how to give sincere, non-creepy compliments, both when running a set and in my regular life.  I’m actually considering deducting part of the fee for the workshop as a business expense, because it was equally good as a networking workshop.

And finally, the thing that was great about your workshop, and that I’ve also brought into my regular life as well as my dating life, is knowing how and when to close.  I was always too nervous to close, thinking that it showed my hand or made me look desperate.  After your workshop, I was leaps and bounds ahead in knowing how to close in a way that acknowledges that the person you’re talking to knows that you want something, but still seeming on top of the situation, fair, and sincere about asking for something.  I’m no longer like a 7-11 (never closes!).

One of my best friends suceeded in getting a hot, smart, totally cool wife using the Game.  He always tried to prod me into using it, but the intellectual dishonesty of the version of Game he was running grated on me… I’m a good guy.  Your system doesn’t make me feel bad about what I’m doing, and works.  It’s good to know that, with a little persistence, the world is conspiring in favor of good guys.

-Andy

 

Nick is one of my top guys. Anyone taking a Day Game Workshop with me this year in the USA is very likely to meet him. Check out some of his reviews on The Attraction Forums. A rapidly growing Love Systems star, especially when it comes to day game.

Nick has written about the most common day game mistakes that aspiring pick up artists make. Check it out and heed his words.

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Oh – here is something interesting, though. So I’m in the car with my roommate and his family the other night. He has an 18 year old sister and we were talking about the girl I had broken up with recently. She mentions that she has been watching Sex in the City lately and how the “dating world is scary”. I tell her it’s not that bad. Then she says this, “You know, I have this dream that someday I will be walking down the street and my soul mate will just walk up to me and tell me that I look nice, and we will hang out and then end up going out”. Or something like that. The important part is that this girl has a FANTASY of some dude day gaming her. How mind blowing is that? That right there shows why day game is so effective. And how many times have I done it? ZERO.

Yeah man, whoever you are who wrote that, get out there and start doing some approaches!

Good luck.

Jeremy

I get some awesome feedback via email after my workshops. It’s *really* nice to get all that feedback. Sometimes it’s tweets, Facebook chat messages, or sometimes it’s private emails like these.

Please, keep them all coming! My life has changed enormously over the last decade, and in particular, over the last few years of working with Love Systems.

It stirs my soul (pun fully intended) and reaffirms everything I do (especially when faced with occasional criticism from close-minded individuals or irate women – some of whom I’m able to charm and show the authenticity behind what I do to, others who forever remain closed to the nature of my work).

Here’s an email I got recently from a client from one of my Australian Day Game Workshops. FYI, Sydney is one of my favorite cities in the world (and in fact, I met an incredible girl while I was there), so it’s always a joy to do workshops there.

Jeremy

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AT LAST

Jeremy has done it!

1.

• Thank you so much for the workshop, I had a great time!
• You have taught me to expect and believe that having more quality in all areas of my life is a reality.
• The subtleties that you taught me have improved the quality of sets that I have run since the workshop – the devil is in the details!
• Not only have I been more successful since the workshop, I have been having more fun. The girls I have been interacting with seem to be responding even better – on both a sexual level and a generic social level. The latter being just as important to me as finding the girl(s) of my dreams.

2.

• Since the workshop, I have been practicing at every opportunity: on the way home from meetings; at my local coffee shop in Melbourne; at a conference; at lunch with some mates; on the way to the airport; at the airport; on the plane; at the bus stop … this list will keep growing.
• So here is the brief story. Of all the sets I have run this has been the most rewarding: I caught the bus to the shops after work today – I stepped off the bus and there she was, walking towards me. Legs up to her armpits, stylishly dressed, beautiful blonde hair that fell gracefully across her face. I progressed through each of the models of the LS triad system as far as I could. I used everything I had learnt, from more sexualisation to cold reading. After the first 5 minutes I was emotionally intoxicated – she ticked all my boxes from looks and physique to poise and intelligence. Unfortunately, it turned out she had a boyfriend (statistically speaking only 16% of the sets I have run since last Friday have been single – I must have a thing for beautiful women who are spoken for). So I only progressed for the next 5 minutes to add to my ‘library of girl knokwledge.’ The reason I am relating this story to you is because I turned her day around completely - she had had a shit day at the office and had just purchased some wine so that she could drink her sorrows away. After our interaction she was positively beaming - self confidence was oozing out of every pore of her body! I had recharged her emotional ‘elephant’ so much that she discarded her recently purchased red wine then and there (such a waste, but the next homeless person to rummage through that bin will have a pleasant surprise!) So, while this was not a successful interaction from a dating point of view, I was so happy that I could bring so much joy to this beautiful young lady. You probably have experienced hundreds of situations like this, but this one will resonate with me foreever – the day that her sorrow was assasinated by an aspiring pick up artist.

And now I shall conclude (at last!) as I began …

Jeremy has done it!

AT LAST!

Retzev – full review of the workshop here

Walking around outside, I felt a rush of excitement. Allowing a couple girls to pass by, I started to get a good feel for the daytime approach time window (only a couple seconds!!) Opportunities to approach would come and go in the blink of an eye. I found myself thinking up reasons not to approach like “I’m too young for her”, “she’s walking with too many people around her”, “I’m going to come off creepy at this angle”, “she’s sitting down with friends.” Every excuse seemed valid in my head at the time and I would actually try to convince my roommate logically why I was right.

After walking past a group of 3 girls who were sitting together outside tanning on the grass, my heart started pounding. I was being a coward and I was wasting time. I started to understand that these excuses were just covering up my fears. I realized that not one of these fears was valid. I was actually just being a little bitch. I finally snapped and said “No!!” to my internal dialogue. I got leverage on myself and walked up to them with nothing to lose. I approached and received a surprisingly positive response. I couldn’t believe it! After about a minute of holding conversation, they told me: “What you just did took balls, man!! Respect.” The girl I was attracted to gave me her phone number and I had just experienced a groundbreaking paradigm shift in my belief system. Going forward, I will now approach every set even if it looks “impossible” to me.

After completing my 5 approach goal, I came home feeling fantastic. Why didn’t I start doing this sooner? Thank you Jeremy Soul.

Tomorrow is Day 1.

Chance