WHAT YOU GET

Cajun outlines a system from how to set up your profile to how to ask her out. Obviously you can expect there to be sections like “Profile Pictures” and “About Me” write-ups, but the real gems are the examples Cajun gives AND the description of how to personalize them. This is key in my mind.
You get box-by-box advice of how to setup your profile, what to include and what to definitely avoid. (It’s funny how that one little tweak to your profile can get you exponential gains.) He also outlines the major difference between boring profiles and ones girls message.

With that, there is a plethora of message logs included, all real examples of what’s worked for Cajun before. He also includes chat logs of instant messages, which is a nice way of showing the subtle differences of chatting in real time versus over message.

There is also a two-page cheat sheet of extra tips that add some nice icing to your online game.

Tenmagnet drops in a nice chapter on the lost art of phone game. Everybody has become so concerned with texting in the past couple of years that there hasn’t been much said about phone game, a necessity, recently. This guy was my original mentor and I can tell you there is NOBODY better on the phone than him. He gives the what to say, when to call, how to ask her out info you need. A must read.

Keychain also has a nice quick start guide so you can get your profile going and get some dates as you improve it with Cajun’s advice.

Read the rest of Nick Hoss’ Gentleman’s Guide to Online Game review and see photos from the book.

 Alexander Technique Intro

The Alexander Technique is a subtle method of sensitivity re-education that works to change habits in everyday activities. As I use words to describe phenomena in these series of articles, realize that they are just a guide for your imagination. Only an Alexander teacher’s hands can give you a real experience of kinesthetic reawakening and freedom. The student is taught how to free himself from unconscious muscle tension and accumulated emotional trauma stored in his body. This indirectly results in increased spacial awareness and better posture over time.

One of the biggest obstacles in game is undoubtedly the fight or flight response to a particular stimulus (loud music, social pressure, etc.) I’ll use approach anxiety for example:

1. Stimulus (sexy blonde girl in “leave-em-on” heals at the night club)

2. Emotion (attraction → approach anxiety)

3. Thought (“she’s out of my league” → “she probably has a boyfriend anyway” → “need more alcohol!!”)

Be _________

If you’ve ever heard the advice “be confident” or “just be yourself”, the key word is actually be. “Being” is somewhat foreign to western culture, which is a very results oriented, doing society. It’s not so much what you say to her or how many lines you can spit, its how you say it and what you’re sub-communicating about yourself. These principles are called “end gaining” vs. “the means whereby” in Alexander’s texts.

Doing too much for a desired outcome is a perceived sign of insecurity and neediness in a social context. Trying to be something (funny, alpha, etc.) unfortunately does not lead to attraction with women. In dating science, this would be called “try-hard.” Feeling secure, charismatic and sexy can begin from a place of becoming present to your entire body, giving a single conscious “direction” of thought (aka “I’m a sexy beast”) and taking right action.

If you find yourself battling negative self talk a lot (as I did), make sure not to make your self wrong for having those thoughts. Accept that your negative thoughts are just trying to protect you, that they are not real, breathe and come into your body. If applied, these tips can be stepping stones toward developing presence and becoming internally validated.

Hope this helps.

I’ll get into some direct Alexander applications for better body language in the next one.

Chance

INNER GAME

You don’t need to eat nasty concoctions, throw up 4 times a day or do pushups until you pass out to feel proud of who you are as a man. Tony Robbins talks about inspiration and desperation as two of the most powerful underlying motivators for people. Remember what you had to overcome to get to this point in your life and use that as fuel for your fire. If you are on your purpose, having a blast along the way, everyone will be drawn to you.

Walking around campus after initiation, I remember thinking to myself: “I don’t care what anyone thinks about me”, “anything is possible”, “I am on fire right now” and “my life is amazing”. These beliefs are great to internalize. The music I was listening to was having a big impact on my state as well. Any type of music that brings you up to a higher frequency where you feel passionate, appreciative and empowered will help for day game. The key is to channel your emotions, be genuine and own your masculinity.

CAMPUS DAY GAME APPROACHES

Opening

• Jeremy Soul-style direct openers are very effective
  • (excuse me, I just saw you doing X, I had to come tell you Y, my name is _____)
  • approach thinking “I’m going to make this girl’s day”
  • get excited, take chances
• use situational openers for girls in your immediate proximity
  • ex: sitting next to her in class, standing on line at the dining hall, etc.
  • contextual questions / comments, banter & humor

Sample Topics of Conversation

• shared experiences
  • ex: dorm life conditions, dining hall food, finals, professors, etc.
  • hometowns, lingo, culture, study abroad
• involvement on campus
  • ex: student government, music, fraternity, athletics, yoga, volunteer groups, etc.
  • talk about why you are passionate about it so you can connect with her on that emotion
• social circle, epic stories, last weekend’s mayhem
• favorite classes, major

Day 2 Ideas

• study session at library or other public location
• pregame, party, daydrink, sporting event (tailgate)
  • invite her & her friends
• daytime date
  • ex: I once took a creative girl (day game approach) on a date where we drew on a sidewalk with rainbow driveway chalk, talked about our passions and then volunteered at a food bank.
• campus events
• find common interests and explore them together
  • plays, intramural sports, art history, outing club trips, frisby, etc.

My First Ever Campus Day Game Approach

I remember having a huge crush on this stunning freshman blonde girl who I’d see every day walking back to the dorms. She had the most unbelievable body I’d ever seen. I would melt every time I saw her. Flash forward to a couple months after pledging, I’m walking back from class, listening to my IPod, when I spot her walking just ahead of me. I felt some nervousness and I had no clue what day game even was at this point but all I knew was that I HAD to go talk to this girl. The angle was off, I looked like a drug dealer, another guy had just approached her 2 minutes before me, she didn’t even know what a fraternity was and she despised house parties. None of these factors mattered though. I just assumed it was on and kept talking. My beliefs “I don’t care what anyone thinks about me”, “anything is possible”, “I am on fire right now” and “my life is amazing” carried me through the Triad Model and brought me the girl of my dreams.

TIPS

1) Be ballsy, no regrets

• 4 years flies by fast– before you know it, graduation will be right around the corner

2) Don’t be discouraged if she has a boyfriend

• in no way do I support cheating, but literally almost every single hot girl I knew in college cheated on her boyfriend at least once

• if you really like her, put her on the backburner (long fuse) and go approach other girls (you never know when she’ll come around)

3) Use Facebook to your advantage

• pictures say 1000 words about you (tag yourself in the good ones)

• display social proof and preselection

• friend her on Facebook only after you’ve been texting each other for a little while

4) Tend to your social garden

• make some good friends and always be doing fun things (1st semester senior year, we purchased 1000 ball pit balls and made a McDonald’s style ball pit in our house!!)

Chance

In SCM, Braddock talks about “hunting” vs. “farming”. For the most part, you won’t need to do much hunting (cold approaching) if you’ve pledged a legitimate fraternity. Every brother will be farming the girls he meets so you’ll all be harvesting crops together. Be sure not to lose sight of who your true friends are but you want to align with guys who are good farmers. This alone will dramatically increase the amount of hot girls you’ll have access to without expending much effort.

Note:

1) Groups of girls will almost always be late for social events. Be okay with it. One of their biggest fears is social awkwardness. By arriving early and sober, they run the risk of it being “awkward”.

2) Girls are masters at appearing innocent. At university, there are rarely, if any social consequences for a girl who sleeps around. No one really cares so no need to judge. Most of the time, she’ll pretend it didn’t happen, claiming she was “blackout” and her friends will cover for her.

PREGAMES:

- Hosting a pregame is a great way to have fun and build investment with girls before a party. College girls will usually go out in “squads” of 4 to 5 girls until one girl starts consistently hooking up with one guy in your group. You want to get “sticky” with at least one girl in her group. If they can enjoy themselves and feel comfortable hanging out with you and your group of friends, they’ll come back and bring more girls.

- Lights on. Music loud but low enough so everyone can hear each other.

- Alcohol – More hard alcohol, less beer. Anything fruity (jello shots, flavored vodka, etc) works well for girls. Play games where everyone can participate… our favorites were flip cup and a beer pong (Beirut) type of game called “Civil War”.

HOUSE PARTIES:

- Girls will travel far distances in heels, pushing through injury to get to a good house party with a DJ. It’s the highlight of their week to look sexy, get drunk, dance and hook up with cool guys. ANYTHING is possible at college parties. Sexual activity can happen anywhere: dance floor, bathroom, laundry room, outside on the central air conditioning unit, anywhere your imagination can think of.

- At house parties, you’ll get attraction off the bat just by having the confidence to start and hold a fun conversation with a group of strangers. Don’t get obliterated if you’re trying to meet girls. If you’re a “wallflower” at the party, trying to snipe girls off, you’ll be sure to creep them out. Talk to everyone, have fun and “let go of outcome”. If you can display social proof and a little bit of preselection, direct game (“Man Game”) will be like fishing with dynamite. Bounce her around after building attraction. A bounce within the house party could include grabbing a beer, smoking a cigarette outside, taking shots in a bedroom or showing her something cool in the house.

- Lights dimmed (black light is best). Music played really loud preferably by a DJ who can manage the tempo of the party and beat match songs together, eliminating awkward silences between songs.

- Alcohol– More beer, less hard alcohol. Kegs are cheap but they can slow down the pace of the party. Cases (cans) keep the party moving but you’ll pay more and have a bigger clean up. Hard alcohol will get finished off in the blink of an eye at a big party so try to conserve it, saving it for “VIP”! Once the alcohol runs out, everyone will start clearing out so be sure to have enough to last the night.

Part 3, I’ll get into postgames, facebook, campus approaches and any other college topics you guys would like info on.

Chance

For the majority of 18-year old high school seniors, college life is a vivid fantasy dreamt up full of crazy parties, hot girls, popularity and unforgettable memories. Finally escaping that sub-par high school reputation has the incoming freshman watering at the mouth for a fresh start. Never landing that high school crush is an agonizing stab at the heart but it can be used as leverage toward a new beginning. College can be a dream come true or a missed opportunity filled with regret and anguish.

During those first couple weekends, we would wander aimlessly around campus, sometimes 8 guys deep desperately trying to buy our way into a house party. Meanwhile, the hot girls on our floor would flock to fraternity, football, hockey, lacrosse and rugby parties.

For all the freshman and sophomores reading this who attend mid to large sized universities, take advantage if you get the opportunity to pledge a legitimate fraternity. It will make college game so much easier. Each fraternity elects a social chair who’s primary responsibility it is to organize parties with hot sorority girls. The social chair handles the alcohol, pregame, venue, DJ, transportation, logistics and all vomiting drunk people.

After about a month into the semester, “rush” will begin. Rush is a 2-week period where all the fraternities on campus host events with free food and alcohol with the purpose of recruiting new pledges. Lame fraternities will take anyone they can get (if you’re unsure if a fraternity is legit, ask a couple hot junior or senior sorority girls on campus). The popular fraternities on campus want pledges who are cool, confident, fun and have future ambitions to help improve the fraternity after they become brothers.

If you can keep that in mind, you should be able to make a good impression and generate some buzz amongst the brotherhood. If they like you, they’ll invite you to a “call back” rush event. After callbacks, the brotherhood will hold a meeting where they’ll vote on whether or not to extend a “bid” to you. A bid is an invitation to pledge their fraternity, which usually lasts from 6 to 8 weeks.

Be sure to pledge a fraternity that has high social value on campus, throws sick parties every weekend and plans bus trips, “date parties”, formal events and “mixers” with the hottest sororities. Huge. A mixer is a party where the fraternity and the sorority’s social chairs will decide on a theme (angels & devils, pimps & hoes, Halloween, Christmas, etc.) and throw it together.

Date parties were my personal favorite and are by far the easiest nights to get laid. This is where the brotherhood will rent out a venue and each brother can bring a date of his choice. If your fraternity has value and you’ve build some attraction with your date, you’ll be able to relax, introduce her to your friends, drink, tease her a bit, build comfort and escalate. Watch out for drunk brothers trying to swoop in on your date!

Also, have no fear of pledging a hazing fraternity. My inner game would not be where it is today if it weren’t for the mental, emotional and physical challenges that I faced throughout pledging. The pride we all felt wearing those Greek letters was a reflection of the struggle we had been through together and the respect we had each individually earned for ourselves. Two of my closest friends today were my pledge brothers.

When girls found out I had pledged the top fraternity on campus, my value exploded and the game suddenly became a whole lot easier. I thrived off the new positive reactions I was getting from girls but I didn’t really understand it… that is until I found Love Systems. Part 2 coming soon.

Chance

The LS student travels down a path of transformation extending deep into all aspects of his life. On his bootcamp, he gets a taste of what is possible. His instructors show him the door, but he is the one who must have the burning desire to walk through it. He is taught to gain experience through repetition, similar to practicing a jump shot in basketball, referring back to his notes as he plunges forward. Approaching consistently over time, the blowouts and flakey numbers don’t sting as bad and he slowly begins to “let go of outcome”. He learns to push through those harsh emotional dips and share his success stories with his mates (high fives!!). Regardless of his mental state, he lives to fight another day, small chunking and diligently working toward the dating life he dreams for himself. Qualification becomes a genuine phase in the Emotional Progression Model as he learns to respect himself and value his time; her external beauty becomes merely a prerequisite for the initial interaction. Riding the power of intention and unwavering tenacity, he begins to manifest abundance and confidence for himself.

Months down the line, knee-deep in the process, something happens which is rather unexpected but indeed remarkable. He finds a gem. Sharing deep comfort and intimacy, he discovers the depths of her personality and falls… hard. His hearts pounds as he holds her in his arms. Her feminine energy has the power to calm him down. Her demeanor radiates a subtle power in her sexuality and the sex they share is mind-blowing. He finds himself surprisingly vulnerable as he remembers why he ultimately began this amazing journey in the first place, looking deep into her beaming eyes.

Love Systems gives you the blade (skill set, knowledge) you’ll use to slay the dragon and the stallion (proper boundaries, standards & lifestyle) you’ll need to ride her out of the castle. Regardless of what happens with any one particular princess you fall in love with, you will ALWAYS have your blade and stallion. Love is one of the spoils of war, surprising you during your efforts battling in the trenches. Its an emotional roller coaster! I say enjoy the ride but don’t allow yourself to get knocked off your path. Subconsciously, she has the desire to become the second most important priority in your life, next to your passion. If for whatever reason it doesn’t work out, learn what you can from the experience, open up those bootcamp notes, grab a wing and start slaying dragons again.

Chance

Today’s guest post is by Eric J. Leech, a dating expert and professional blogger who primarily writes for DatingWebsites.org

- Nick Hoss

Most of what dating website’s members have learned about the rules of dating, have come from the people they’ve gone out with. (Love Systems’ Magic Bullets has redefined these rules.) However, consider the reason why most of these people are now your exes. Most of what you’ve learned, may be exactly why these people are still paying their membership dues year after year. If you are guilty of any of these sins on dating websites, you may already be well on your way to becoming a perpetual dating website’s member…

1. Envy: Thou Shall Not Lie to Impress Other Members

The worst offense on any dating website is lying. Statistics show that as many as 80 percent of men and women have lied about their age, weight, and job to impress another member. Some members actually fear rejection so much, they’d rather pretend to be someone they’re not, than risk being turned away for who they really are. Be the person that makes you happy, and if that makes another member happy too, then you’ve just found someone worthy of getting to know.

2. Sloth: Thou Shall Not Be a Lazy Communicator

Many dating website’s members are put off by the idea of using electronic devices in place of personal contact. This is referring to when a member cancels, announce their lateness, or attempts to break up with you via a text or e-mail. Any member who is reliant on technology to give and receive important personal messages, is either lazy, insecure, or guilty of hooking up with more members than they can handle.

3. Pride: Thou Shall Not Become Dependent on Other Members
There are times when men and women shouldn’t date because they are vulnerable. One of these times is when they are dependent on others to take care of them, due to a loss of a job, etc. A man or woman who is addicted to someone for support (emotional or monetary) will never be their equal. They will eventually resent that person for taking care of them. Do yourself a favor, and regain your independence (pride) before joining any dating websites.

4. Gluttony: Thou Shall Not Abuse Technology

There are some people who are just as interested in keeping up with old friends and co-workers on their computer or smart phone, as getting to know someone they’ve never met before. The result is a lot of waiting in between messaging/chatting, and sometimes a lack of response all-together. The last I checked, website dating etiquette was far from dead, which should include a hello, thank you, goodbye, and giving each member your full attention while they are either speaking or typing.

5. Greed: Thou Shall Not Expect Too Much From Any Member

Women and men get themselves in trouble when they expect too much from another member. They particularly don’t like waiting for all the answers to be unveiled, such as: Do they like me? Do they want children someday? Are they dating anyone else? Are their children dating anyone (a.k.a. are they lying about their age)? All these questions may be important to you, but they don’t need to be answered within the first couple minutes of chatting. Take everything in stride. Focus on enjoying getting to know other members, and letting the mystery unveil itself one step at a time.

6. Wrath: Thou Shall Not Allow Previous Anger/Distrust to Filter Across to a New Relationship

Expecting all dating website’s members to be like your ex is unfair, and can start a relationship off on the wrong foot. Relationships can be heartbreaking, but true love can never be achieved without first sharing yourself openly and honestly. In order for your relationships to be successful, they must begin on a clean slate. This means assuming every member is “not guilty” on all accounts of bad relationship practice (unless proven otherwise).

7. Lust: Thou Shall Not Rush Into Any Sexual Relationship

Sex is a fundamental need of every relationship, but rushing into it too soon can undermine intimacy, replacing it with lust. (Savoy covers this quite well in his Relationship Management DVD set.) A good man or woman may think about sex, and if allowed certain advantages, may even try to initiate it. However, a worthy partner is more likely to be enthralled by the chase, then focused on the reward. If you give away all your treasure before a member has had to earn it, you may lose your value on the dating market. As in most things, the more someone has to work for what they want, the more they’ll appreciate it.

- Eric J. Leech

There is a natural tendency to blame external factors (people, circumstances, etc.) for lack of success. Not too long ago, I had to confront my self limiting beliefs in regards to my dating life. After reading a few books, I discovered that these mindsets were produced as a means to ensure my survival, covering up hopelessness, frustration and fear. Changing the way one thinks is definitely a process but modeling after successful people and adopting their mentalities is a great way to start.

In regards to game, fear can create a restrictive comfort zone bubble for what is possible. Heading into my first bootcamp, I was terrified of expressing verbal interest to a woman (telling her she’s beautiful or making a sexual advance). For me, the fear of being rejected, judged and socially outcasted created such an intense painful feeling inside my body, there was no way I was going to face it without being told to by an instructor. Through conscious repetition (100′s of reps), those fears I used to hold are near completely extinguished. Most social fears should be attacked head on. Some fears like fear of getting hit by a car are great to keep around though.

Some examples of social fears could be:

Fear of direct approaching, fear of rejection, fear of being a creeper, fear of social disapproval, fear of asking for her phone number, fear of talking to 9′s & 10′s, fear of moving her around the venue, fear of running out of things to say, etc.

A great way to overcome fears is to face them head on little by little with a sense of humor. Afterward, you’ll laugh about how dumb those fears were and how much they were holding you back. Something similar would be the feeling you experienced after your first roller coaster ride or when you rode a bicycle w/ no training wheels for the first time. I like this quote by Seneca:

“It is not because things are difficult
that we do not dare.
It is because we do not dare
that they are difficult.”

Chance

As for me, I just recently moved out to Hollywood to intern for Love Systems. I’ve never lived in a city before so the initial anxiety of living in a new place with no social circle is something I’m working through. Its a great opportunity to cold approach, make new friends and recreate myself. Since our arrival, my buddy and I have decided to create daily, weekly and long term goals to accomplish what we want for our dating lives.

Week 1: Intro

- Taking adventures, getting situated, discovering the nightlife scene, talking to strangers and approaching a couple girls per day / night.

Week 2: Opening

Focusing strictly on opening, this past week has helped develop my peripheral radar for hot women. I can spot them from really far away now. I think I got blown out and took phone numbers from more women this week than any other week of my entire life.

Some tips that have helped:

1) Talking to everyone, all the time, regardless of how you feel.

2) Friendly Competition (w/ yourself & your wing if you have one)

- I despise losing!! Using competition to my advantage has given me the extra push to consistently approach and push my comfort zone. You can try direct competitions, indirect competitions, or just compete to see who can talk to more people in one outing. This will skyrocket the quantity of sets you approach in a week.

3) Cutting down on masturbation

- Credit Vercetti. I did not want to give up this habit! It was a great decision to go through with it though. Use that sexual energy to drive your approaches.

4) Letting go of expected outcomes

- As we left the supermarket the other day, my buddy told me he just saw Holly Madison from the Playboy Mansion show “The Girls Next Door”. My eyes lit up and my stomach dropped. I threw him my groceries, sprinted back and spotted her on line surrounded by 3 of her macho guy friends. “Thank you God”, I thought to myself, looking at this sexy blonde Playboy Playmate. A week ago, I wouldn’t have dared to approach this girl. But through the process of consciously pushing my comfort zone everyday a little more, I no longer have many of the fears I used to have. I walked up and took a shot with a direct approach. Everyone in the supermarket was staring at me. I could feel the social pressure building. I started transitioning onto my mastery topics real quick and then her macho boyfriend came out of nowhere. He made a Hulk Hogen grunting sound, pumped his chest out and jumped right in between of us. We had a little eye contact showdown for a moment with everyone in Trader Joe’s starting at us. I wasn’t ready to get my shit wrecked that day even if she was a Playboy Playmate. I hadn’t even qualified her yet!! : )

I know he’s old school but this quote by Mystery really sums up the mindset I have been cultivating during this past week. I think its great for someone beginning to get serious about improving their game.

Mystery: “..Think of tonight as a video game. It is not real. Every time you do an approach, you are playing this game. All your emotions are going to try to fuck you up. They are there to try to confuse you, so know right now that they cannot be trusted at all. You will feel shy sometimes, and self-conscious, and you must deal with it like you deal with a pebble in your shoe. It’s uncomfortable, but you ignore it. It’s not part of the equation.”

Good luck!

Chance

- Jeremy Soul

So one of the biggest mistakes I see with intermediate guys is that when they see some success, they get complacent with their skill set. I’m going to define intermediate as someone who can get dates from cold approach regularly, with some of those dates turning into sexual relationships. In this stage of your development you are usually dating a couple girls and are consistently approaching and getting solid phone numbers. You’ll start feeling pretty good about yourself and start thinking “Damn I’m a fucking pimp!”

When you come from a place of not getting any women to a point where you can get some women it’s easy to get comfortable and stop developing your game. Now you should be proud of the progress you’ve made and enjoy the current fruit of your labors, but if you want to hit that next level in your game than you need to go back to when you were a newb at this stuff and start trying new things and putting yourself in uncomfortable situations.

If you are going out and you find your interactions are going too easy and comfortably than your game has probably stagnated. If you are going out to work on your game you should always be attacking limiting beliefs, testing out new concepts, and trying new behaviors. When I start noticing that all my interactions are similar and I’m too comfortable with my skill set, I know it’s time to try something new. You have to be comfortable being uncomfortable, because it’s usually when you are out of your comfort zone that you’re growing.

If you are comfortable approaching women of certain level of attractiveness, than you need to raise the bar and start approaching women who intimidate you.

If you getting good at approaching women at bars and clubs, then maybe you should try approaching women in the day time.

If you are comfortable approaching groups with only girls in them, try approaching groups with guys in them.

If taller girls intimidate you, then you need to start approaching some taller girls.

If you are comfortable approaching attractive girls of a certain ethnicity, than start approaching attractive girls of a different ethnicity.

If you open with mostly opinion and situational openers, it’s time to start trying out some direct openers.

If you are consistently getting solid phone numbers that turn into dates, than it might be time to stop getting phone numbers and aim to take girls home the same night you meet them.

Personally I always make sure I’m trying out one new concept in my game at any given time. I keep the rest of my game the same but I add one new element. Lately I’ve been focused on being more dominant and escalating more aggressively.

I am naturally a passive person, so trying to be more dominant was very uncomfortable for me. I actually felt out of character for a few weeks. After a while though I started seeing a lot of women would become very attracted to my dominant behavior and I started taking more girls home the same night. Even though it was uncomfortable at first, I got some great reference experiences and I’ve added an essential element to my skill set. Well worth the initial discomfort.

Constantly evolving your game has some major benefits. For one you will have more behaviors which you can access depending on the situation. The more you go out and interact with different girls you will find that they’re not all the same. Every girl has a different blueprint and they will not all respond to the same things.

Some girls respond well to heavy teasing while other girls need an emotional connection. I’ve dated girls who respond well to affection and being touched sensually, while I’ve also dated girls who did not like being touched but responded well to me being dominant and cave manning them all the way to the bedroom. Some women you’ll meet at night are looking for a quick hook up and conveying strong sexual intent is all you need. During the day time your interactions are going to be heavy on logical intrigue based attraction while during the night time you will be using more teasing and state based attraction skills.

Different situations and different types of girls will require you to access different parts of your skill set. Think of it like a toolbox, depending on the situation or type of girl you can pull out the tools wat that you need. Having a wide variety of behaviors and reference experiences, to call back upon, gives you more options. If you aren’t consistently adding new tools to your toolbox, you’re missing out on a lot of opportunities and new experiences.

I’ll share with you some more examples in my own development.

When I was fairly consistent at getting dates at night, I realized that I couldn’t meet girls in the day. So I attended a Day Game Bootcamp and worked on improving my day game for a while. Doing this improved aspects of my game I wasn’t using much at night. My story telling, comfort, and general conversation skills vastly improved. Not only that, but I could now meet girls during the day.

At one point I also realized that I was only comfortable approaching Asian girls and had a limiting belief that I could not attract non-Asian girls. So I stopped approaching Asian girls to attack that limiting belief. After dating a few non Asian women I no longer have that limiting belief. Doing this hindered my short term success, I didn’t get laid for 2 months, but I was looking long term and now have much more options in the type of women I can date.

One of the major lessons the process of improving my game has taught me is that you should always be growing and evolving. Get out of your comfort zone, face your fears and attack limiting beliefs that do not help you move closer to your goals. Apply this growth mindset and you will be surprised how much progress you’ll be able to make.

Kastle