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Attraction – Sparkers and Amplifiers

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Attraction is fascinating, and over the weekend I was thinking about this concept of ‘sparking’ versus ‘amplifying’. There are some techniques that are useful for sparking attraction (ie generating it from scratch) and other techniques that are awesome for amplifying attraction (ie generating even more attraction once you already have some value). (For a free on Attraction from the Super Conference, click here.)

If you’ve listened to some of Love System’s interviews (there are over 10 on Attraction) or taken a live program, you have no shortage of weapons in your arsenal for generating attraction. Some of these can both spark and amplify attraction, but for simplicity I have picked two for each category to cover here:

Sparkers

Sub-communications

We’ve read that what you actually say (content) can be different to what you’re actually saying (subtext and sub-communication). Your body_language and voice are powerful communicators, thus having strong sub-communications is one of the most important pieces of the attraction puzzle – and it’s also the most difficult to develop.

Body language

- Stand back, let here come to you

- Hold strong eye contact

- Never ‘peck’ or lean in

- Smile slightly

- Don’t twitch/ jerk

- In general have a relaxed demeanor

Voice

- Project your voice

- Slow it down

- Speak clearly and don’t mutter

- Use pauses (you’re used to people being interested in what you’re saying)

 

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State-based attraction

This type of attraction is also known as ‘pumping buying temperature’, it means you have a positive influence on her state. Girls love emotional roller coasters and any time you spike her emotions, attraction is going to happen.

Role- plays

Any time she says or does something cool, this is a great opportunity to go off into a fun and absurd role-play (ideally one that lets you sexualize and escalate).

E.g. “We’re getting married in Vegas. We’re gonna hire a limo, hire a gay wedding planner and have sex 5 times a day. Wait, can you cook?”

Teasing

People only tease those who are equal or lower value to them, thus playfully teasing shows you are on her level and not intimidated by her beauty.

E.g. “Oh god, we need to get you a helmet and some crayons and stick you in the corner so you don’t hurt the other retards.”

Humour

Making her laugh increases her state and humour generates good emotions.

E.g. “You know the reason I’m out tonight is to lose my virginity and get married. My mum keeps telling me to stop playing World of Warcraft in the basement and find a nice girl.”

Amplifiers

The more value you have, the more compliance you can get, thus as your value increases, it is important to capitalize with compliance and investment – this is why qualification is such a crucial phase. However this is an attraction article, so let’s focus on that.

“Good game = normal, normal, spike” and while sparkers can also be used to amplify attraction, these techniques below work especially well once you have a little value.

Intrigue based attraction

Being mysterious is very attractive. When done effectively, dropping little hints about yourself piques her curiosity and makes her very interested in finding out more about you. The catch? Before she is interested in you, she has to see you as someone who is worth being interested in.

E.g. “I like my job. Sometimes I hate the travel but it leads to some pretty awesome adventures. Have you ever been overseas?”

Takeaways

Takeaways are more advanced. People want what is scarce, thus the proper use of takeaways makes the girl with think to herself “I like it better when he’s standing here next to me, where did he go?”

Early in the interaction, they generally start silly, trivial and often (push-pull), but later in the set it’s more about respect and behavior (boundaries). Takeaways are attraction amplifiers because the more value and investment you have, the more you can get away with.

They can be verbal, for example “Girls with nice smiles are my weakness, you need to get away from me” or non-verbal, like a backturn or being easily distracted while she’s talking. Takeaways can explode your game or they can lose you the girl. The most important thing is that you need to be willing to walk.

So there it is, some things you say or do can be great in the beginning to spark attraction, other things work better when you save them and use them at other points in the interaction. Play around with these and have fun out there.

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